When People Walk Away From You,
Let them Go.
Your Destiny is Never Tied to Anyone Who Leaves You.
And it does not mean they are bad People.
It means that their part in Your Story is Over.
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Saturday, June 18, 2011
Father's Day 2011
My Father passed away when I was 6 weeks old. This coming October marks the 25th year of his death.
25 years.. and i am only 24.. 6 weeks old.. I was only SIX WEEKS OLD!!!!!
I never got to even Utter the words "Dad" or "Father" to him. He never saw my first.... Anything.... everyday I wish i could hug him and just cry on his shoulder. The older I become, the more I miss my father... That is a void i can never fill.. I Never go tot hear his voice..taste his cooking, .see how tall he was, smell the aroma of his body, or even feel how soft or rough his skin was...I was robbed of that.. I always think that if he was still here things in my life would be totally different. Maybe I would not be in this situation that I am in right now....I can only dream though right?
I only have a select few pictures of him because his Mother is being stingy with the mass amounts of pictures she has of him.. she wont give me anything.. His only son.. she won't let me have that connection with him. (sigh) anyway....
Appreciate Your Fathers,,, Cuz some of us don't have them here with us anymore... Love you Dad. And I will forever need and Miss You.
25 years.. and i am only 24.. 6 weeks old.. I was only SIX WEEKS OLD!!!!!
I never got to even Utter the words "Dad" or "Father" to him. He never saw my first.... Anything.... everyday I wish i could hug him and just cry on his shoulder. The older I become, the more I miss my father... That is a void i can never fill.. I Never go tot hear his voice..taste his cooking, .see how tall he was, smell the aroma of his body, or even feel how soft or rough his skin was...I was robbed of that.. I always think that if he was still here things in my life would be totally different. Maybe I would not be in this situation that I am in right now....I can only dream though right?
I only have a select few pictures of him because his Mother is being stingy with the mass amounts of pictures she has of him.. she wont give me anything.. His only son.. she won't let me have that connection with him. (sigh) anyway....
Appreciate Your Fathers,,, Cuz some of us don't have them here with us anymore... Love you Dad. And I will forever need and Miss You.
10 Biggest Dating Mistakes
Everyone makes mistakes. Here's 10 of the biggest mistakes people tend to make when they're dating someone:
10. Giving too much information too soon. Within the first few dates he/she doesn't want to hear about your horrible relationship with your mother and the guy/girl who screwed you over big time.
9.Telling them all about embarrassing moments. This ties in with the first one. I'm pretty sure telling him/her about the time you pooped your pants in the 3rd grade isn't the best ice breaker.
8. Obsessing over the ex. You wouldn't want your date going on and on about their ex boyfriend or girlfriend would you? Give them the same courtesy. Even if you're not over your ex yet, they don't need to know that.
7. Going through the motions. The worst kind of date. He or she is the type of person who won't ask you questions about yourself and when you give them details about you they seem bored or uninterested. This creature is to be avoided at all costs. Their emotionless attitude will suck the fun out of any date.
6. Making plans last-minute. It might be cool to call your friends and tell them to meet up with you in 30 minutes, but it definitely doesn't fly too well with someone you've just started dating. Don't get me wrong, I'm as spontaneous as the next girl, but it also sends the message that you don't care enough to plan things out.
5. Mistaking intense attraction for love at first sight. It's highly rare that you can truly fall in love with someone upon meeting them for the very first time. However, it is very possible you are insanely attracted to them. Don't let this affect your rationality. Once that's out the door, who knows what will happen?
4.Quit playing games; this isn't Yahtzee. Nobody likes being on the receiving end of a game. Girls like to play hard to get and guys like to ignore texts to keep her hanging. Why can't we all just be honest? If you like him or her, ask them out, let them know. How else are things ever going to progress if you're too busy playing games?
3. Don't be too quick to ignore warning signs. Yes he seems like the total package but there's still a little voice telling you something is off. Maybe he drinks a little too much and gets rowdy or maybe she is constantly on her phone 24/7. I know you might try and tell yourself it's no big deal, but there's a good chance things can only get worse.
2. Liar, liar, pants on fire. Telling white lies is common and often used to avoid hurting someone's feelings. However, if you start telling little lies to someone you're just beginning to date, chances are they're going to catch up to you. You might be getting away with murder for the time being but it takes one tiny slip to untangle and entire web and more times than not, your date is not going to be happy at all.
1. Know your boundaries. Crossing someone's line is never a good thing. This includes overdoing certain things, like mentioning your pet in every sentence, or giving overly-flirtatious compliments to your waiter or waitress. Basically this includes acting like a straight up jerk (at least this will be the perception of your date). Always be consciously aware of how you're acting and more importantly how your date is reacting to you.
Are you guilty of any of these faux pas?
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This is Taken from user "Datingish" on Xanga......
Seeing I have never been on an Official Date, i will take these "what not to do" hints with importance. I can say though that i have been guilty of Number 1 plenty of times.... even when just trying to make a friend.. That may be something that scares people away.. I have to find a happy balance between Telling TOO much, and not telling enough!
Anyway.. I put this here just for my personal reasons, and to always have a place to go to remind me what NOT to do when those Dates start to come. :-)
10. Giving too much information too soon. Within the first few dates he/she doesn't want to hear about your horrible relationship with your mother and the guy/girl who screwed you over big time.
9.Telling them all about embarrassing moments. This ties in with the first one. I'm pretty sure telling him/her about the time you pooped your pants in the 3rd grade isn't the best ice breaker.
8. Obsessing over the ex. You wouldn't want your date going on and on about their ex boyfriend or girlfriend would you? Give them the same courtesy. Even if you're not over your ex yet, they don't need to know that.
7. Going through the motions. The worst kind of date. He or she is the type of person who won't ask you questions about yourself and when you give them details about you they seem bored or uninterested. This creature is to be avoided at all costs. Their emotionless attitude will suck the fun out of any date.
6. Making plans last-minute. It might be cool to call your friends and tell them to meet up with you in 30 minutes, but it definitely doesn't fly too well with someone you've just started dating. Don't get me wrong, I'm as spontaneous as the next girl, but it also sends the message that you don't care enough to plan things out.
5. Mistaking intense attraction for love at first sight. It's highly rare that you can truly fall in love with someone upon meeting them for the very first time. However, it is very possible you are insanely attracted to them. Don't let this affect your rationality. Once that's out the door, who knows what will happen?
4.Quit playing games; this isn't Yahtzee. Nobody likes being on the receiving end of a game. Girls like to play hard to get and guys like to ignore texts to keep her hanging. Why can't we all just be honest? If you like him or her, ask them out, let them know. How else are things ever going to progress if you're too busy playing games?
3. Don't be too quick to ignore warning signs. Yes he seems like the total package but there's still a little voice telling you something is off. Maybe he drinks a little too much and gets rowdy or maybe she is constantly on her phone 24/7. I know you might try and tell yourself it's no big deal, but there's a good chance things can only get worse.
2. Liar, liar, pants on fire. Telling white lies is common and often used to avoid hurting someone's feelings. However, if you start telling little lies to someone you're just beginning to date, chances are they're going to catch up to you. You might be getting away with murder for the time being but it takes one tiny slip to untangle and entire web and more times than not, your date is not going to be happy at all.
1. Know your boundaries. Crossing someone's line is never a good thing. This includes overdoing certain things, like mentioning your pet in every sentence, or giving overly-flirtatious compliments to your waiter or waitress. Basically this includes acting like a straight up jerk (at least this will be the perception of your date). Always be consciously aware of how you're acting and more importantly how your date is reacting to you.
Are you guilty of any of these faux pas?
________________________________________________________________________
This is Taken from user "Datingish" on Xanga......
Seeing I have never been on an Official Date, i will take these "what not to do" hints with importance. I can say though that i have been guilty of Number 1 plenty of times.... even when just trying to make a friend.. That may be something that scares people away.. I have to find a happy balance between Telling TOO much, and not telling enough!
Anyway.. I put this here just for my personal reasons, and to always have a place to go to remind me what NOT to do when those Dates start to come. :-)
Friday, June 17, 2011
F**K THAT N*GGA
I've been up three days
Adderall and redbull, this call is a mistake
There's something strong in this water bottle
He got a new chick, a dancing little barbie doll
I feel so pathetic, but you still haven't heard it all
F**k that new girl that you like so bad
She's not crazy like me, I bet you like that
I said f**k that new girl that's been in your bed
And when you're in her I know I'm in your head.
I'm just saying you could do better
Always turned you out everytime we were together
Once you had the best, boy you can't do better
Baby I'm the best boy you can't do better.
Ran into your homeboys
There all f**kin' idiots
You're not even my boyfriend
But they're trippin'cuz I'm in the club
Yeah that's right I'm dancin'
And something cool is in my cup
Imma send a sexy picture
To remind you what your givin' up.
F**k that new girl that you like so bad,
She's not crazy like me I bet you like that
I said f**k that new girl that's been in your bed
And when you're in her I know I'm in your head.
I mean I'm just sayin' you could do better
Always turned you out everytime we were together
Once you had the best boy you can't do better
Baby I'm the best, so you can't do better.
*Marvin's Room* Jojo 2011
It's like she went in my head and pulled those lyrics out.. Dang... YES JOJO!!!!!!!! This is why she is my Favorite artist and why I LOVE HER Music! She always comes out with the right music when Ineed to hear it the most!
Adderall and redbull, this call is a mistake
There's something strong in this water bottle
He got a new chick, a dancing little barbie doll
I feel so pathetic, but you still haven't heard it all
F**k that new girl that you like so bad
She's not crazy like me, I bet you like that
I said f**k that new girl that's been in your bed
And when you're in her I know I'm in your head.
I'm just saying you could do better
Always turned you out everytime we were together
Once you had the best, boy you can't do better
Baby I'm the best boy you can't do better.
Ran into your homeboys
There all f**kin' idiots
You're not even my boyfriend
But they're trippin'cuz I'm in the club
Yeah that's right I'm dancin'
And something cool is in my cup
Imma send a sexy picture
To remind you what your givin' up.
F**k that new girl that you like so bad,
She's not crazy like me I bet you like that
I said f**k that new girl that's been in your bed
And when you're in her I know I'm in your head.
I mean I'm just sayin' you could do better
Always turned you out everytime we were together
Once you had the best boy you can't do better
Baby I'm the best, so you can't do better.
*Marvin's Room* Jojo 2011
It's like she went in my head and pulled those lyrics out.. Dang... YES JOJO!!!!!!!! This is why she is my Favorite artist and why I LOVE HER Music! She always comes out with the right music when Ineed to hear it the most!
Monday, June 13, 2011
One of the Worst Fears I Have.
I'm Scared S**tless to be in a relationship... A real One... not one of these Fly by night ones that I see many people have.
It is hard for me to actually describe the things that have been going through my mind for the past few days. I have been trying to gather up the thoughts and feelings and actually put them into sentences that make sense... I can't though... it's a tough pill to swallow knowing that i can't just go ahead and say the things i want to say. Most times i do not feel there is anyone out there for me. who can Love me for me.. I know i am not perfect.. and most times i feel i am the most imperfect person in the world....I strive to make myself better.. But every time i feel i make myself better, something else is staring me right in the face, making me feel lower then when i started. Now I am not in a depressed mood or anything. So i am not writing this with a sad face or wanting a pity party. But these are the thoughts that Are running in my head.. The surface thoughts. I hinted at this a few nights ago with my "Relationship Abundance or Relationship Starvation.. What's the Deciding Factor" blog entry and it still obviously Boggles my mind how people who look a certain way or have horrid qualities or don't even take care of themselves seem to always have people on their JOCK! i don't believe i will EVER understand why.
But if that time for me ever comes i know i will be scared S**TLESS!!!!! (Now i don't curse but i feel that is the only way for me to say it with enough emphasis to show you how serious i am) I won't know what to do.. what to say.. I won't know ANYTHING... I don't want to be dumb in a relationship.. But i feel that is what will happen because i do not know the first thing about relationships (meaning me actually being in one)
Now when it comes to other people being in a relationship and them asking for my advice, i can tell them a whole bunch, i can listen to the problem, take into consideration both sides of the argument, and solve the issue, or at least give my two cents. Some people call me the Ghandi of relationship advice.. HAHA.. but when it comes to me being in a relationship, i know, i will not know what to do!
I don't know the FIRST thing about a relationship.
I could go on for DAYS about this subject. I think i will stop here though.. Being scared for someone to love me sounds stupid right? Well... it's a very real fear i have.. each year it gets stronger and stronger... Like Jazmine Sullivan Said in her song 'Lions, Tigers, and Bears' "I'm Not scared of Lions and Tigers and Bears, but I'm scared of Loving you
Whoever "You" is.. YOU'RE TERRIFYING THE CRAP OUTTA ME! hahahaha..
It is hard for me to actually describe the things that have been going through my mind for the past few days. I have been trying to gather up the thoughts and feelings and actually put them into sentences that make sense... I can't though... it's a tough pill to swallow knowing that i can't just go ahead and say the things i want to say. Most times i do not feel there is anyone out there for me. who can Love me for me.. I know i am not perfect.. and most times i feel i am the most imperfect person in the world....I strive to make myself better.. But every time i feel i make myself better, something else is staring me right in the face, making me feel lower then when i started. Now I am not in a depressed mood or anything. So i am not writing this with a sad face or wanting a pity party. But these are the thoughts that Are running in my head.. The surface thoughts. I hinted at this a few nights ago with my "Relationship Abundance or Relationship Starvation.. What's the Deciding Factor" blog entry and it still obviously Boggles my mind how people who look a certain way or have horrid qualities or don't even take care of themselves seem to always have people on their JOCK! i don't believe i will EVER understand why.
But if that time for me ever comes i know i will be scared S**TLESS!!!!! (Now i don't curse but i feel that is the only way for me to say it with enough emphasis to show you how serious i am) I won't know what to do.. what to say.. I won't know ANYTHING... I don't want to be dumb in a relationship.. But i feel that is what will happen because i do not know the first thing about relationships (meaning me actually being in one)
Now when it comes to other people being in a relationship and them asking for my advice, i can tell them a whole bunch, i can listen to the problem, take into consideration both sides of the argument, and solve the issue, or at least give my two cents. Some people call me the Ghandi of relationship advice.. HAHA.. but when it comes to me being in a relationship, i know, i will not know what to do!
I don't know the FIRST thing about a relationship.
I could go on for DAYS about this subject. I think i will stop here though.. Being scared for someone to love me sounds stupid right? Well... it's a very real fear i have.. each year it gets stronger and stronger... Like Jazmine Sullivan Said in her song 'Lions, Tigers, and Bears' "I'm Not scared of Lions and Tigers and Bears, but I'm scared of Loving you
Whoever "You" is.. YOU'RE TERRIFYING THE CRAP OUTTA ME! hahahaha..
Friday, June 10, 2011
Relationship Abundance or Relationship Starvation.. What's the Deciding Factor?
I find it very interesting that some people can go ANYWHERE and find someone who likes them or can get into a relationship in matter of days or weeks. I don't know if that is a good thing or a bad thing. Meaning it can be good because you always know that someone will want to spend time with you and be with you. Bad because that can make you look like a whore. i also find it interesting that people who may not be the Ordeal Model of Beauty can pull people also.
Now don't get me wrong, that might come off rude and mean, but trust... I believe Everyone should get a chance to get love, or at least have someone express that they enjoy or like their company in more then a friendship way. What the main point on my mind is.. who or what decides the people who get those opportunities or not?
I can't help but think of all the times i have thought i put myself out there and i got nothing in return, but someone who puts their PINKY Toe out there gets all the attention from everyone (HAHAHA) People do not notice me there.. No matter how much noise I seem to be making.
It was starting to mess with my confidence... i'm regaining what i had lost though.
I can see the most beautiful people, caring, loving, appreciative, just all around good people with much confidence get nothing.. and the ones who are total Donkey holes get everything... It makes no Sense to me.
I just am trying to figure out what makes the difference between people who get all the attention they want..and the ones that get none.. when they seem to be putting out the same amount of effort and work?
Just some things to Think About.
Now don't get me wrong, that might come off rude and mean, but trust... I believe Everyone should get a chance to get love, or at least have someone express that they enjoy or like their company in more then a friendship way. What the main point on my mind is.. who or what decides the people who get those opportunities or not?
I can't help but think of all the times i have thought i put myself out there and i got nothing in return, but someone who puts their PINKY Toe out there gets all the attention from everyone (HAHAHA) People do not notice me there.. No matter how much noise I seem to be making.
It was starting to mess with my confidence... i'm regaining what i had lost though.
I can see the most beautiful people, caring, loving, appreciative, just all around good people with much confidence get nothing.. and the ones who are total Donkey holes get everything... It makes no Sense to me.
I just am trying to figure out what makes the difference between people who get all the attention they want..and the ones that get none.. when they seem to be putting out the same amount of effort and work?
Just some things to Think About.
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
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