Saturday, June 18, 2011

10 Biggest Dating Mistakes

Everyone makes mistakes. Here's 10 of the biggest mistakes people tend to make when they're dating someone:

10. Giving too much information too soon. Within the first few dates he/she doesn't want to hear about your horrible relationship with your mother and the guy/girl who screwed you over big time.

9.Telling them all about embarrassing moments. This ties in with the first one. I'm pretty sure telling him/her about the time you pooped your pants in the 3rd grade isn't the best ice breaker.

8. Obsessing over the ex. You wouldn't want your date going on and on about their ex boyfriend or girlfriend would you? Give them the same courtesy. Even if you're not over your ex yet, they don't need to know that.

7. Going through the motions. The worst kind of date. He or she is the type of person who won't ask you questions about yourself and when you give them details about you they seem bored or uninterested. This creature is to be avoided at all costs. Their emotionless attitude will suck the fun out of any date.

6. Making plans last-minute. It might be cool to call your friends and tell them to meet up with you in 30 minutes, but it definitely doesn't fly too well with someone you've just started dating. Don't get me wrong, I'm as spontaneous as the next girl, but it also sends the message that you don't care enough to plan things out.

5. Mistaking intense attraction for love at first sight. It's highly rare that you can truly fall in love with someone upon meeting them for the very first time. However, it is very possible you are insanely attracted to them. Don't let this affect your rationality. Once that's out the door, who knows what will happen?

4.Quit playing games; this isn't Yahtzee. Nobody likes being on the receiving end of a game. Girls like to play hard to get and guys like to ignore texts to keep her hanging. Why can't we all just be honest? If you like him or her, ask them out, let them know. How else are things ever going to progress if you're too busy playing games?

3. Don't be too quick to ignore warning signs. Yes he seems like the total package but there's still a little voice telling you something is off. Maybe he drinks a little too much and gets rowdy or maybe she is constantly on her phone 24/7. I know you might try and tell yourself it's no big deal, but there's a good chance things can only get worse.

2. Liar, liar, pants on fire. Telling white lies is common and often used to avoid hurting someone's feelings. However, if you start telling little lies to someone you're just beginning to date, chances are they're going to catch up to you. You might be getting away with murder for the time being but it takes one tiny slip to untangle and entire web and more times than not, your date is not going to be happy at all.

1. Know your boundaries. Crossing someone's line is never a good thing. This includes overdoing certain things, like mentioning your pet in every sentence, or giving overly-flirtatious compliments to your waiter or waitress. Basically this includes acting like a straight up jerk (at least this will be the perception of your date). Always be consciously aware of how you're acting and more importantly how your date is reacting to you.

Are you guilty of any of these faux pas?
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This is Taken from user "Datingish" on Xanga......

Seeing I have never been on an Official Date, i will take these "what not to do" hints with importance. I can say though that i have been guilty of Number 1 plenty of times.... even when just trying to make a friend.. That may be something that scares people away.. I have to find a happy balance between Telling TOO much, and not telling enough!

Anyway.. I put this here just for my personal reasons, and to always have a place to go to remind me what NOT to do when those Dates start to come. :-)

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